Adult Friendships

Friendship boundaries don’t end at the friendship. On what you owe people who trust you, and why your friend’s partner shouldn’t know your secrets.

Have you ever thought to yourself: "I have too many friends"?

Refusing to ask for help from our closest friends and people is very common, but it can hurt more than just us.

Formally, gossip is "the exchange of information about characteristics and behaviours of an absent person." Casually: talking about people when they're not in the room.

Being comfortable alone is a skill worth having. Cutting yourself off from people entirely is something else, and it comes for you eventually. We're not built to run solo.

There's something about female friendship I've never been able to explain properly.

We're in a moment of trying to figure friendship out. What makes a good friend, what makes a bad one, how many you're supposed to have, how much effort is the right amount of effort.

Connection is a skill, meaning it gets rusty when you stop using it.

A tool built to close distance is somehow producing it. So do we delete everything? Declare the group chat the enemy of real friendship?

Why do we feel lonely during the one season we're supposed to be having the time of our lives?

On one side, people remind us how good community is for us, how much we need each other. On the other, people push back, and honestly, some of their points are fair.

Friendships take effort, time, a little bit of remembering. To have a village, you have to be a villager.

Is it wrong to want your friends to give back as much as you do?

Why leaving college feels like grief — and the behavioral science of how to pre-build adult friendships before graduation. Plus the NovaZoom proof of concept.

Being honest with friends should be simple. These are the people who are supposed to know us best, who we trust the most. So why does telling the truth feel like walking through a minefield?

There's real psychology behind why friends exclude you, and almost none of it is about something you did wrong. But you can do something now: name it, be direct about what you need, and stop shrinking to make other people comfortable. Your friendships should make you feel bigger.

Feel guilty about losing touch with an old friend? Here's the psychology behind friendship drift, why it's not your fault, and exactly how to send that text today.

Your conflict style isn’t a personality trait — it’s an anxiety response. Here are the 6 patterns people fall into during conflict, how to identify yours, and how to start choosing differently.

Your brain can only maintain 150 relationships. Here’s how to stop exhausting yourself trying to keep up with everyone and build a social ecosystem that actually works.

Nobody warned you that adult friendship takes work. Here are 5 psychology-backed truths about keeping your people close after 25 — and why it’s worth it.