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Transitions like graduation bring huge changes to our professional and personal lives, especially since they can pose a threat to the longevity of our friendships and ultimately our social health.

I’ve been the planner for as long as I’ve had friends. The Google Calendar invite. The reservation. The “okay so I was thinking we do drinks at 7, dinner at 8” follow-up text. The post-mortem the next day where I quietly tally who showed up, who ghosted, and whether anyone actually had a good time. If I’m being honest, the work of planning is not the heavy part. The heavy part is the 48 hours leading up to it, when I’m walking around with this low-grade dread that nobody will

The word "selfish" feels heavy. Most of us don't want to label someone we love as selfish. So instead we absorb it. We justify it. We tell ourselves we're being too sensitive. But there's real psychology behind why these dynamics are so draining.